‘She submitted paperwork claiming she’d raised me’: Estranged aunt Linda shows up at her niece’s home after vanishing for 12 years, demanding she lie to help her get a caregiver credit government program money, but the niece refuses

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  • Why is my estranged aunt acting like I owe her cooperation after 12 years of radio silence?

    Young woman arguing with an older woman over a fence beside a bold quote about being pressured to lie: "She wants me to just say something simple' so she doesn't get in trouble"
  • So this all blew up way more than I expected. When I was a teenager, my aunt "Linda" basically vanished from the family after a huge fight with my mom.
  • She moved across the country, skipped every holiday, never called me on my birthday, nothing. Fine, adults fight, whatever.
  • Flash forward 12 years and suddenly she's back in town because she wants to "reconnect with her roots".
  • Except reconnect apparently meant showing up to my place unannounced last month because she "needed a small favor".
  • Her "favor" was asking me to confirm to some government office that she had been "actively involved" in my upbringing so she could qualify for some caregiver credit program.
  • Young woman arguing with an older woman over a fence in a suburban driveway
  • I literally laughed because I thought it was a joke. She got stone cold serious and said, "Well you WERE very attached to me".
  • Girl, I was eight, and you left without even saying bye. I told her I wasn't comfortable lying for her, and she got offended like I'd personally stabbed her.
  • She left in a huff and told my cousin (her daughter) that I "turned my back on family".
  • Fine. I thought that was the end of it. Nope. Two weeks later I get this long text from her saying some of my "recent choices" have "concerned her" and that she'd like to "help guide me" now that she's "back in the picture".
  • All because during a family dinner I casually mentioned researching tenants rights for my future move.
  • Not planning anything, not announcing anything, literally just learning. She took it like I had asked her permission to change my entire life.
  • Then yesterday she calls crying. Turns out she submitted paperwork claiming she'd raised me, and the office requested proof.
  • Now she wants me to "just say something simple" so she doesn't get in trouble. I told her no again, and she snapped that I was being "dramatic" and letting "old resentment" cloud my judgment.
  • Old resentment? Lady, you went missing for a decade. I owe you nothing except the silence you left us with.
  • My mom says to ignore her, but somehow I am still the villain in half the family chats because "she's trying to make amends".
  • Is this normal? Do people really think showing up after 12 years means you can rewrite history and demand cooperation?
  • ImpressPlayful6088 Honestly, anyone expecting you to lie for them after disappearing for years is asking way too much. You're not the villain here.
  • Mcfly Throwaway01 Report her to these people. Tell them she's lying and attempting to comitt fraud.
  • Difficult-Celery4864 If there wasn't any money involved, she wouldn't even bother with you. Your mum is right
  • forgetregret1day Never lie to the government. They don't like it and when they find out (and they will) you'd be in for a world of trouble. You owe her nothing, least of all participation in a scam to defraud the government from money. NTA.
  • Jakomako Block and ignore. Or don't, if you're secretly enjoying the drama like it seems.
  • NJrose20 I would co-operate with them and tell them unequivocally that she's lying lol.
  • Star TrekkinBaby Yoda Honestly she can fuck off. Expecting you to LIE for her on an official document for a government office is shutty behaviour. You wouldn't do that shit for a stranger so why the fuck would anyone even consider that for family? She was the one who fucked off for 12 years, she doesn't deserve any help rn.
  • Only_Music_2640 Your aunt is upset that you won't commit fraud to benefit her. Let that sink in for a minute. She should be grateful you didn't report her to the government agency she's attempting to defraud.
  • Old Leadership_5000 "You left twelve years ago without so much ad a word or even a goodbye. And now you want me to lie for you on an official government dovument so you can profit? Are you delusional?" Nah, OP. You owe her nothing.
  • Acceptable-Net-154 Would respond its kind of concerning how happy half of you are to support fraud especially for someone who while claiming to be close me cut me off as a kid due to an argument with my mum. Do none of you realise why officially stating this person contributed to my child's. upbringing when they actually didn't might be an issue. Yes its for her benefit I do this but I have no idea if it will be causing any current or future issues for me or my mum

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